And, if you’re like most people, you hold beliefs about a lot of things: money, love, safety and security, power, the way things work, and your place within it. So, because you hold these beliefs, you also set yourself in relationship to these things. And here’s the thing: Having a relationship means that you hold […]
Everything in life — money, love, food, your body — is neutral until you have a belief about it. It’s your beliefs about those things that determine how it shows up for you. If your belief about food is that it’s something that comforts you and fills you up in ways beyond pure sustenance, then […]
I want to be proud of my belly, like a child. Or at least, if not proud, I want to be unaware of it. Unselfconscious. I want to stand tall and strong and not endeavor to “suck it in,” in the way that a belly that’s been stretched by nine months of pregnancy just does […]
view this on Medium … much prettier there bare branches against white winter sky look like ink on paper poplar fluff snagged on barberry burs the decaying Christmas tree still green & fragrant an old, abandoned sandbox memories of an invisible lifetime lasting 9 1/2 weeks a sad, lonely mound of browning snow and a […]
It’s so easy to look around in life and see things that you want to change: A new, bigger house. A nicer car. Better spending habits. A thinner body. And the next thing you do, most of the time (if you’re like me, anyway) is to go about [insert grunting sound here] trying to change […]
I’m not saying failure doesn’t hurt. You’ll probably cry afterwards, and it will probably sting. I’m saying, however, that not trying is going to hurt a heck of a lot worse, so just jump in the ice cold water and find that toughness, that Conviction inside you … Read this when you need inspiration on days that are what Holly GoLightly called “The Mean Reds.”
ode to the melanistic leopard. for introverts seeking self-acceptance.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. —Dr. Wayne Dyer It’s a well-known tenet of quantum physics: when the wave is observed, it becomes a particle. Einstein famously called this “Spooky action at a distance.” You could also think of it this way: Nothing is anything until you […]
Because when you do value yourself, you love yourself first, and it don’t matter what no one else thinks, baby, because you know — you know — deep down that you are worth it, and you won’t put up with that crap. You won’t even let yourself get in that situation of giving something you don’t really want to give just to get something you think you need. Because you’ll know then, you’ll really know, that you don’t need anything. That you are whole, and perfect, and beautiful, no matter what anyone else thinks.
Approval is a big fat illusion tied up in the idea that you are being judged. Stop seeking approval and start asking different questions, like “do I like this? does this make my heart sing?”